You may regularly share as a family about your day-to-day, but when it comes to feelings talk, it gets too uncomfortable! First, I would encourage you as the parent to explore why this is the case for you. I would then ask myself why sharing feelings as a family is important and consider how it would be helpful for my family. Start with small steps and try the tips below to deepen your relationships as a family!
1 – Modeling.
You are your child’s example, so start by regularly sharing how you are feeling. Name how you feel and explain why “I am feeling frustrated with all of this traffic right now.” We are not perfect, and all emotions run in us too. So share when you are feeling overwhelmed — it’s okay! The more you share, the easier it will get, and the more comfortable your child will feel opening up to you.
2 – Keep it Simple.
Check-in regularly with your child by setting aside time to ask them about their day. Take time to notice what they may be feeling throughout the day to support them in identifying different emotions. “You look really excited that we are going to Grandma’s!”
3 – Actively Listen.
Be truly present with your child as they share their feelings and experiences. It helps to get on their level and give them full eye contact. We want them to feel validated and to know that their feelings are important to us. Communicate that you understand by restating what they express and being curious about their experience.